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You Failed! Yay!

I read a post this morning from another #autismmom and it inspired me to think differently about what to do when we fail. She described how her daughter with autism had recieved her first 'C'. As her daughter usually gets A's & B's, her daughter was very upset. So this Mom did something unexpected and amazing. She took her daughter out for an afternoon of her favorite things. They went shopping at her favorite store, ordered food from her favorite restaurant and celebrated her first 'C'.

I love this for several reasons. First, a lot of individuals with autism have rigid behaviors based around their expectations of how things are supposed to go. And let's be honest, we all have this tendency a little bit. When things go the way we expect them to, it's a great day! When unexpected things happen, our day de-rails, we get flustered and spend the day picking up the pieces.

Second, why do we align our lives so much with achievements and success? Life isn't measured in our successes, life has always been about the ups and downs. At the end of the day haven't we learned more about ourselves when faced with unexpected circumstances? For instance, we can observe our reactions when things don't go as planned. For me, I get quiet and my stomach starts to hurt and I clean the house. I stop trying to communicate and I shift inwa